I could see the defiance on Jason’s face. He was fighting back rage. During his first ManKind class for male perpetrators, I had asked him to say one nice thing about his ex-girlfriend, who he had been convicted of assaulting. After a long silence he finally said, “She cooks.” He left after class and didn’t come back, even though he was court ordered.
Several months later Jason asked to re-enter the program. At first he was still resistant and was sure everything had been his ex-girlfriend’s fault. She was a drug addict, but he was as well. It’s the reason they lost custody of their twin daughters.
I now noticed a change in Jason. Now he wanted his life to change. At first he still didn’t agree with much of what we taught in Man-Kind, yet God was at work in his heart. By the end of the program he wrote this to his ex-girlfriend:
“I’m writing to tell you how sorry I am for the physical pain and suffering you endured throughout our relationship. I’m so sorry I was cruel to you. I convinced others to see you as the abusive one but it was me all along…”
During his time at ARMS, he re-gained custody of his daughters. He began attending church and started working for a Christian man who mentored him. He completed the program in the Fall. It was awesome to see him grow not only in being a better man but also in his relationship with God.
Last Christmas Eve I saw Jason on the news! He had won a brand new car full of food and gifts for his daughters. His sisters had entered him in a contest for someone who had really changed. It was such a wonderful thing to see God blessing him even further. It made my Christmas.
By Stacey Womack